This past week I was busy working on a paper on same-sex marriage for my ethics class and checking out way too many library books. Among them were a few I picked up specifically to see how evangelicals were talking about marriage as a broader topic. In Zondervan’s Marriage Savers, I found this incredibly humorous (and sad) story:
There’s this guy named Jim Talley who used to be a pastor at a church in Modesto, California. In a fourth-month relationship course based on his book Too Close, Too Soon, he requires couples to put a limit on their time together: 20 hr the first month, 30 hr the second month, 40 hr the third month, and 50 hr the fourth month of the course. When Marriage Savers‘ author Michael McManus asked Talley about his reasoning for these strict rules, Talley said the following (pg 98):
“My experience suggests that on average, a couple will be in bed after 300 hours alone together. I try to stretch that time out, with 140 hours in the relationship period, and another 160 hours during engagement so that they end up in bed for the first time on their wedding night.”
Is it any surprise that about half the couples Talley counsels don’t end up getting married? So much for keeping people together…
This, my friends, is why you don’t buy 95% of Christian books on sex, marriage, or dating.